Noticing Your Anxiety Triggers

I have been working with a client in a series of energy healing sessions who described herself as having good days, and bad days. Sometimes her anxiety isn’t present at all, and other times it is almost overwhelming.

When I asked her why she thinks it ebbs and flows, she said she really isn’t sure.

I told her that she has “anxiety triggers” and if she can start to keep track of her anxiety levels, she can start to figure out what is elevating her anxiety.

Events, emotions or experiences can be triggers, which cause the symptoms of anxiety to begin or make it worse.

An example that my client gave me is driving in traffic. She notices that if traffic is bad, she’ll start to get very anxious when driving.

Triggers are different from each person, and most people have more than one trigger. Identifying these triggers isn’t always easy, but it is a very important step in overcoming anxiety.

If someone has had very serious trauma (like sexual abuse or domestic violence), the trigger may be obvious, but oftentimes the triggers can be very subtle.

And, without the concerted effort to try to figure out what they are, the triggers can be sneaky. The trigger may cause a subtle, heightened sense of anxiety, so subtle it’s not all that apparent that the trigger occurred.

A personal trigger could be a specific person, a smell, a song, or a place. These triggers can remind you, with or without your awareness, of traumatic experiences of the past.

I told my client to start to keep track of her anxiety and the events that immediately preceded her noticing the anxiety arise. I also told her to look back at what occurred the day before she noticed the anxiety.

She possibly may have had multiple small triggers the day before she really noticed the anxiety. The anxiety was actually slowly rising, but reached a tipping point the next day when she really began to notice it.

How does energy healing (including Reiki) fit in with the healing from anxiety triggers?

Energy healing “creates space” so that you have access to noticing your triggers. An awareness starts to occur that wasn’t accessible before.

Most importantly, energy healing heals at the root cause of anxiety so that your triggers no longer have power over you. They just become another daily part of life without negative meaning.  

How to Uncover Limiting Beliefs

When clients come to see me for energy healing, they are typically at a point of frustration. Their lives just aren’t where they want them to be.

They describe themselves as feeling “stuck.” They describes themselves as “anxious” or “having anxiety.”

Some have tried meditating. Some may be in therapy, or are on antidepressants. Sometimes, they haven’t done anything and I’m their first stop and making an improvement in their lives.

Oftentimes, they are astute enough to realize that the way they were brought up is causing their stress or anxiety. They may even have what would be described as “trauma,” an event in their lives (particularly childhood) that was so devastating and hurtful that they have damage from which they are still working on healing in adulthood.

When they see me for a session, I describe at as working on “layers of an onion.” In their session, we may heal the outer layer. Maybe we’ll heal two layers, or maybe three.

Through my psychic abilities, I often pick up on something that happened in their lives that is stuck in their energy field. This trauma is being stored there, blocking the full, healthy flow of their energy system.

I will see imagery that provides me with clues about what happened. Sometimes, I just know things about the client. I piece together the puzzle during the session to know what particular traumas or events need to be healed, or are being healed in the session, so that the client can come back to being her full, radiant self.

When I see imagery that is a clue, I discuss with the client what I saw during the session after I’m done working.

From there, we’re able to get hints (if I or we aren’t already 100% positive what the imagery meant) about what occurred in the client’s life that needs further healing.

This is how limiting beliefs are formed: an event occurs in a person’s life. The person makes a decision about themselves from the event and that decision becomes a limiting belief. It’s trapped in her energetic field and subconscious.

The limiting belief is running the show.  It’s called a LIMITING belief for a reason. It limits the person from her full potential.

An example would be that a girl raises her hand in class in elementary school. The teacher calls on her and she gives the wrong answer. Other kids in the class laugh at her. From that occurrence (which was incredibly embarrassing to her), she develops the limiting belief that she is stupid.

So, she walks through life as an adult thinking she’s stupid. She may not finish college (or even go to college) because she thinks she’s stupid. She may never try to excel in her career because she thinks she is stupid.

While the client and I have healed a layer or layers of the “onion” during her session, quite frequently the client still has work to do to understand what the limiting belief IS, so that she can fully heal from it.

I have a particular method for discovering limiting beliefs that I call the “Dry Erase Marker Method.”

When I discover an instance in my client’s life that was blocking her full flow of energy, I want her to be able to uncover what limiting belief was created by that life event.

To do this, I tell her to write a question to herself on her bathroom mirror, using a dry erase marker. She’ll see the question at least twice a day – when she is getting ready in the morning, and when she is getting ready for bed at night.

The question she writes needs to be phrased in a way that flows well for her, but I usually make suggestions about what she should write.

Examples include “What is my hidden belief about my time in (fill in the blank)?” Or, “Why am I afraid to (fill in the blank)?” Another is “What do I think will happen if I (fill in the blank)?”

I tell the client to read the questions and then go on with her life. She’s not trying to actually figure out the answer on a conscious level.

The brain loves to solve problems and if you give it one to work on, it will do it without you trying.

The energy healing (including the use of Reiki) is a catalyst for the old memories and limiting beliefs to surface so they can be healed if they weren’t fully healed during the session.

Asking questions through the “Dry Erase Marker Method” is actually very powerful. I’ve had numerous clients uncover limiting beliefs through this technique. Once the belief is surfaced, is brought “into the light”, it is no longer operating in the background.

Once the limiting belief is exposed, it can be healed.

Little Steps to Big Transformation

So often, we want dramatic changes to our circumstances, and we want them fast.

When we are in a place in our lives that doesn’t feel good, or we feel stuck, like we aren’t moving forward, we want immediately resolution. It sucks to be in pain or to be hurting. It’s only natural to want immediate relief.

When we take consistent action and are willing to “show up” and do the work required to transform, we set the steps in motion that take us on the path to healing and transformation.

But, when we are “in the middle of it” it is really, really hard to see that we are making progress.

All we see is the end goal: the way we want to be, the way we want to feel. And if we aren’t 100% there yet, we don’t think any progress has been made.

I see this with my energy healing clients all the time. Since I work with women with high anxiety and stress, they don’t think they have made progress in their lives if they still feel any anxiety or any stress.

But what they most likely aren’t accounting for is the reduction in the level of stress or anxiety, or the reduction in occurrences.

These women are making so much progress. Even the acknowledgement that there must be a better way to live and the desire for something else or something more is a step. It is the first little step in the process and evolution.

The next little step is then being curious about how the changes to emotional freedom can occur and considering methods to get there.

Of course, energy healing is an amazing method for powerful change in stress and anxiety reduction.

Every time we take a specific action, no matter how small, to get to the desired outcome, we are making progress.

If it is a single meditation session, if it is a session with a therapist, if it is a session with me. Even if it is a single deep breath focused on letting go.

We work through what I call the “big boulders” first. There are the biggest issues we need to heal from (and why we so often feel stuck, because there is resistance to letting these huge traumas release) that make profound changes.

Then we start working on the smaller “rocks.” Then after that we are working on the “pebbles.”

For some of my clients, they DO have big, fast, dramatic breakthroughs. But for others, the changes unfold over time, sometimes months.

The changes away from stress and anxiety can be a gentle shift. So gentle that we don’t notice it at all. But when we look back, after 4-5 months, at who we used to be, we see how far we’ve actually come.

Trust that you are headed in the right direction and that you are going to get there. You’ve already made progress.