Divine Masculine, Divine Feminine

In my energy healing business, I typically work with women clients and the large majority of them are very vocal and detailed about why they are coming to work with me and the outcome they hope to achieve.

I am honored and humbled by their authenticity and how candid they are about their personal issues that they share with me.  

A male client recently came in for a session with me. He was not at all like my typical client and wouldn't provide me with very much information about why he was coming to see me.

He told me he needed a session for anxiety. I had to prod a bit to get more details, but all he would share is that work was very stressful for him. 

During his energy healing session, very specific intuitive information came through. I knew he grew up in a house where there were clearly defined gender roles and ideas about what it meant "to be a man." I also got the impression that sports, particularly football, were emphasized as being important.

After the session, I told the client about the intuitive information I received. He validated the information by telling me he is one of three brothers and that his mom owned a dance studio and that his father was concerned their sexual preferences would be shaped by being in the studio too much. Instead of taking dance classes, his dad wanted them to play sports, specifically football. 

I told the client that we all have both divine masculine and divine feminine aspects and that it is important that they are in balance and harmony.

I told him I thought his anxiety was due to inherent beliefs he had that came from his father and that he wasn't in balance because he was repressing his natural divine feminine qualities. Not embracing his full nature was the cause of a lot of his anxiety. 

Masculine qualities include logic, reason, action, rationality and strength. 

Feminine qualities include intuition, gentleness, expressiveness, patience and flexibility.

I encourage you to start to examine if you are in balance. Do you default to one way of being more than the other? Personally, I naturally default to the Divine Masculine. 

There are times in life when it is necessary and advantageous to utilize either energy. But consistently and unintentionally defaulting to one way of being will cause discord and issues (both emotional and physical).

I think that the social paradigm of our society operating under a very masculine energy has caused issues for women, resulting in stress and anxiety. We’re not letting our feminine side surface when it needs to, particularly at work, which is many of us spend the majority of the time.

This constant masculine drive has a hard edge to it and is a constant push. There is a lack of softness in this approach, and the stifling of the feminine energy is essential us stuffing down a big part of our true nature.

If we want to be healthy (both physically and emotionally), we have to be in balance, and utilize the different energies to our advantage, calling on them when we need them. We must embrace both the masculine and feminine sides of ourselves.

It takes a true level of self-awareness that we all can achieve, with practice, to bring ourselves more into balance.

Anxiety and the Empath

An interesting synchronicity has occurred over the past few weeks. I've had a number of clients come to me describing how they feel negative all the time, or how they seem to attract negative people who want to "unload" on them.

Others have told me that they need to spend a lot of time alone to feel well or how they can walk past a stranger and feel so overwhelmed with emotion that they have to be at home to "cry it out" because that is the only way to release the overwhelm.

Some of these clients already knew that they were empaths; others had no idea that they were. I even had one client ask me what an empath is when I told him "it sounds like you're an empath" when he was describing his life and chronically negative he felt.

An empath can sense and absorb energy from other people, often to the point of internalizing the feelings and pain of others.

Many empaths (like my client) have no idea they are doing this and can't distinguish the energy and feelings of others from their own. They are walking through life carrying the emotional burdens of others.

This heavy burden can result in a lot of anxiety for the empath, particularly if the person doesn’t realize they are an empathic. They may have a lot of apprehension about being at work, or interacting with a set of specific people at work (these are the people who are most likely resonating an energy that is very discordant to the empath and from whom the empath is really “picking up” on their emotions).

In the past, I've had only a couple of people come to see me who I thought were empaths. I would give them some not very good advice, because I'm not an empath and clair-sentience (the intuitive ability to "feel" information) is my weakest intuitive ability.

I've honestly felt at a loss when trying to tell these folks how they can continue to feel good after a session with me. Through energy healing, I can remove the "junk" they've absorbed from other people, but I didn't know how to guide them to not continue to "pick up" what isn't theirs. 

But, as mentioned, synchronicities have been at work in my life. I recently went to a workshop led by an empath who gave some tips for how she handles buffering herself to not absorb other people's (imagine your energy field pulled in tight around your body when you're out in the world with other people).

I also received an email newsletter from Anna Sayce, a psychic I follow, who wrote a book called The Empath's Toolkit. I've been recommending it to all my clients I think may benefit from it. 

If you're realizing that you are an empath, or if you've already known you are, and want to feel light, free and radically reduce your anxiety, I'd love to work with you individually in an in-person or distance session.

I can clear your energy field of what isn't yours, plus give you individualized intuitive advice about how to recharge yourself and protect yourself from feeling drained or overwhelmed.

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Even Energy Healers Get the Blues

July was a really rough month for me. The month actually started off great. I has signed a lease on my new office, was seeing a lot of clients, and having a general all-around good time. Then, around the middle of the month I started feeling icky and not myself. 

The fun and excitement of my new office quickly became a real hassle. I was given money from the landlord to build a kitchenette and was responsible for overseeing the construction. The budget was really tight and I wound up spending a lot of time finding contractors to do the various stages of work.

Plumbers are apparently a really hot commodity in Austin. I kept telling people that today's youth need to become trades people, because plumbers were booked months out.

Physically, I was feeling really "off" as well, and had underlying anxiety every day. I kept trying to shift myself out of the negative feeling, to tell myself that I was doing something brand new (leasing an office) and that I was learning things that may be valuable to me in the future in some way that's not apparent to me now.

If I get in a funk, it's never for more than a day. But this was over a week where I just felt "blah." 

I knew that there was a ton of energy shifting at that time, as we neared a lunar eclipse on July 27th. I talked with others who, like me, are susceptible to planetary changes. A lot of people were feeling really, really out of sorts.

But, that knowledge didn't really help me feel better. I kept thinking "Yeah, but I'm an energy healer. I'm not supposed to be in a bad mood and cranky for over a week. I'm supposed to be able to shift myself out of this."

The day after the eclipse, I started to feel better. I started to feel more joyous and positive each day. After I started to feel more like a normal person, I had a big realization.

Just because I'm an energy healer doesn't mean I'm not going to feel bad. It doesn't mean I'm only going to have the "ups." Of course I'm going to have the "downs" too, because I'm human.

What I had done to myself was defaulted to an old pattern of perfectionism, and I was beating myself up over not behaving and feeling how I thought I was supposed to be.

When perfectionism is at play, we have the unreasonable expectation that we have to get everything right. It isn't about things actually being perfect; it's about thinking things should be perfect.

Because I'm a healer and spiritual teacher, I thought I had to be like a Buddha on a mountain -- all peace and harmony. That is pretty silly, if you think about it.

So now, I'm reminded to just be me and acknowledge my feelings instead of dismissing them, judging them or pushing them away.

If you struggle with perfectionism in your life, and are tired of it "running the show," I'd love to work with you in some one-on-one sessions.